There were
times during The Frau’s visit to Switzerland last month (mostly when she was in
the city relishing that EVERY car actually stopped for EVERY pedestrian) when
she really wanted to move back. Like really, really wanted to move back.
Especially when she saw Swiss children as young as her daughter confidently
walking alone to school. Or when she sat on a bus seat without any disgust at
its level of cleanliness.
And then
there were moments, mainly when The Frau was sweating in small shared spaces or
listening to her friends’ neighbor’s televisions through shared walls, where
The Frau just sighed and said to Mr. Frau: ”Wow. I really, really do not miss
this.”
The take
away? There are goods and bads in every country. It’s up to you to decide what
goods and bads are best for you.
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Back in Switzerland, 2.5 years after leaving. |
But The
Frau admits: she couldn’t help but feel envious of her American friends who moved
to Switzerland when she did who are now in the process of applying for their
Swiss passports. This is mainly because another passport represents a level of
freedom to move between countries that would be wonderful. Relying on
varying whims of employers and governments is not so wonderful. In any case, The
Frau would love to have more options in her life rather than fewer. But her
nationality options are what they are right now.
In any
case, her trip proved she wants to be living abroad again, or at the very
least, spending her summers in Europe. After all, what’s the point of working
remotely like The Frau does now if you don’t take advantage of a little country
hopping—even if it has to be limited by tourist visas?
In any
case, here is an Unscientific Summary of
Swiss Life, 2.5 years after living there:
GOODS
Cities
built for pedestrians instead of cars (pedestrian bridges, pedestrian tunnels, and
crosswalks that cars actually respect). All seem so amazing now.
Swimming in
Lake Zurich
Transport
that works (except when the power goes out during a storm!)
Cleanliness,
both on the ground and in the air
Nature
integrated in cities
The coffee
The bread
The cheese
The
chocolate
Produce
that’s just produce and not a sci-fi experiment (i.e. not on steroids)
The pure beauty
of the landscapes
SlowUp bike
rides that close roads to cars almost every Sunday from April through September
for pure (and free) biking pleasure (In Chicago, they do this once a year on
Lake Shore Drive, but they make bikers PAY for the priviledge of riding on
roads normally reserved for cars. Sad.)
BADS
Small
apartments
Hot
apartments
Hot public
transport
Crowded public
transport
Pushy, rude
people who aren’t at all “sorry” for crashing into you
People cutting
in line
Living with
neighbors/Shared walls
Shared
laundry/Laundry days/Small washers
Swiss
German
That
foreign feeling
Here’s the big
thing: after being back in the U.S. for 2.5 years now, The Frau knows that you
cannot truly be integrated into a culture and society unless you’re born into
it. She admits—she feels very alive in the U.S. right now. When you understand
the culture and the language because, well, it’s yours, the way you live and
experience things is on a much different level.
Also: While
The Frau sees the goods and bads of Switzerland and the U.S. at heightened levels—as
horrible as it is sometimes when looking at the bads of a place with a 360 view—she
will always be grateful for such a wide lens of the world. (Every American
leader should be required to have lived the real deal abroad—but that’s another topic.)
In any
case, The Frau had to unexpectedly digest a tear when taking off from Zurich a few days ago.
But Chicago greeted her 12 hours later with a rainbow as if to say, “Welcome
home—remember—there are beautiful things here too.”